The truth is so many women try to find a balance in life, but as 35-45 arrives they begin to think was it worth it. With so many wives and mothers undervalued and unappreciated today, what happens to us when all the years poured into others, we lost ourselves or we think we did.

Women today try to have it all, but we can’t have it all, we have to give up something. We can’t do it all and we cant live through our spouses or children. It’s nice to support them, help them with some choices, but when our world becomes living through them we have a problem. You see no matter how many unfulfilled dreams we may have we can’t fulfill them with our children. They are their own, they have their own dreams and when they grow up they leave, as they are suppose to.

Lets talk about our families, a mother is the center, making appointments, cooking, cleaning, helping with school, church, sports, budget, healthcare and loving, supporting and caring for each and every member of the house. Do you ever just want to yell, yes, because somewhere in there you want some time for yourself. So why when you take time for yourself do you feel guilty? Don’t! Everyone in your family gets their time, you need to find yours, this is not selfish, it is keeping your sanity.

If you are questioning what is next for your career and possibly, your life, this is a great time to talk to friends who might be going through a similar experience. One of the worst things busy women do is put their friendships on the back burner. There is no need to “tough it out on your own.” Find a friend who is also interested in personal development who won’t judge the struggle you are experiencing.

Next we talked about dreams. What have you dreamed lately? I mean look at what you always wanted to do before you got caught up in life. Dream your dreams, write them down, share them with friends and keep yourself motivated by using small goals to achieve those dreams. Remember because your older, it just gives you more seasoning to sprinkle on your dreams on your life.